As we all know, behavior is what people do or say. But it's important to remember that behavior can be seen, heard, or measured (how often or how long). This is what allows us as parents to describe behavior in specific terms.

Consider the following example:

You are listening to a basketball game on the radio. Hopefully, the sportscaster is giving very specific details descriptions of the game. You should be able to "see" every play in your mind as the announcer gives a verbal replay of the action.

Would it be as satisfying if the announcer simply stated that the team was playing poorly or that a certain player was doing well? Would we be able to "see" the game in our minds? No-we would quickly become confused and frustrated, and our connection to the game would disappear.

We need to be just as clear when we are describing behavior to our children.